NAVIGATING FRIENDSHIPS IN ADULTHOOD
Since entering my 20s, I have dealt with a lot of guilt when it came to my friendships. I value a lot in my life and my friends are at the top. I wouldn’t be who I am without what was created with those people. but nobody really tells you how difficult navigating these friendships are when you hit the “real world.”
we don’t have as much free time as we used to.
we don’t see them at school.
we don’t live 10 minutes away from each other.
we work long hours and the nights become shorter.
we all have different jobs and incomes.
some of us have stayed the same, and some of us have found new values, beliefs, morals, etc.
we desperately want to hold onto the people we were once close to, but sometimes its best to let it go. those friendships start to fade with all that life brings. Becuase of this, we begin to ask ourselves, “why is it so different with this person? why can’t it be like how it was?” and that’s okay!
don’t take growing apart as a bad thing. take it as growth and hold tight to all of the life experiences you got to share with that person. Once you have a hold of that, bring it with you to the next friendships that comes into your life. Just because that’s not your person anymore, doesn’t mean you have to forget them.
I have lost friends these past couple years that have left a few holes in my heart, but I have also gained friendships that has given me so much that my heart has gotten bigger. the holes that were left, aren’t as big as they used to be.
at the age, we have to learn that making time for each other has to be a priority. we have to be there for the tough spots and the BIG stuff. a shoulder to cry on, a laugh that makes all the noise stop… it’s those things that make these friendships with saving. Growth requires sacrifice, what are you willing to sacrifice?
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its better to have fewer friends than a bunch of casual ones that don’t see the value in being friends. life is so much more fun when you have people that will celebrate with you, even if it is for a shorter time than you thought.
we gain some & we lose some. but we don’t lose what those friendships have given us.
