curly hair journey
wow, where do I even start?
This hair journey should have been started years ago but I couldn’t do it. I didn’t want to do it.
I’m going to be real with you. this shit is hard. Having curly hair is hard. All my life it has been so much easier for me to grab a straightener and take 20 minutes out of my morning to do it. Then I could have an easier week with my hair.
Growing up my mom loved to do my hair & I let her… sometimes. Everyone around me would always tell me they wish they had my hair and always dreamed of having curly hair. And while all of these conversations were happening, all I could think about was that I wanted what they had, board straight hair.
It wasn't until I got into middle school that I started hating my hair. It was “poufy” and “big” and didn’t look like anyone else’s. That’s when I learned how to straighten my hair. For 10 years, thats all I did. If I wasn’t straight, it was in a bun. It didn’t matter if it was summer & I was going swimming, I needed that “flat” hair to make me feel beautiful.
Freshman year of college rolls around and boy was my hair done for. My curls were gone & flat. I remember looking in the mirror and thinking, “wtf have I done.” So I cut it all off. I told myself I was going to start my no heat journey to maintain my curls, and six months later I was straightening my hair again.
I still didn’t like my hair, I actually hated it even more. It was so short and I didn’t know how to do it & me being me, I didn’t take the time to learn how to do it.
Now, fast forward to December of 2021. I’m trying to come up with goals for myself for the upcoming year and my hair comes to mind. Learn to wear your curly hair & learn to love it. That’s what I told myself… and wow have I done that. I got ready for my new years eve get together & straightened my hair for one last time.
This journey has been a whirlwind of emotions & I am so grateful I made this push to embrace my curls. Don’t get me wrong, its been hard as hell. I still look at myself in the mirror & think that I would look so much better with straight hair, but having curly hair is who I am. I will straighten it again someday, but for now I am embracing these beautiful curls that were given to me & will be living life whether its poufy or not.
Here are some of my curly hair recommendations for you people out there that are going through the same thing.
PATTERN BY TRACEE ELLIS ROSS - shower stuff, hair styling creams, gels, etc. are so amazing. my favorite products by far.
Silk bonnet for sleep!
Silk scrunchie to “pineapple” your hair. BEST for sleeping
Clips. Having curly hair gives lets you play a lot with hair accessories so take full advantage!!
HAIR OIL. the best thing for your hair. put this on your ends before bed & you will see a difference.
